Supportive Womin-Affirmative™

Counseling Solutions

For Your Mind, Body & Spirit . . .™

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Cultivating

Healthy Interpersonal Relationships

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. . . As an eclectic/ integrative & Womin-Affirmative™ psychotherapist . . .

AfraShe Asungi blends a diverse variety of cultural sources, including Eastern, Afrikan, & Western approaches into a uniquely Womin-Affirmative™ eclectic psychospirituality counseling & coaching style which she has coined as . . .

      Proactively ReShape™ SheChange™ 

      & SistahPeaceful WellBalance™ !

 

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  Interpersonal Relationships
  • Understanding how past relationships affect the present
  • Resolving childhood and familial conflicts
  • Forming and thriving in healthy relationships 

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         Life Transitions
  • Navigating difficult transitions
  • Honoring your coming out process
  • Finding meaning and moving beyond  the partying stage
  • Managing feelings associated with, chronic illness, and death and dying
  • Coping with extreme job stress
  • Coming to terms with grief and loss
  • Coping while pursuing undergraduate and graduate degrees

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Letting Go of & Moving Beyond Unrewarding Relationships

For Individuals:
We all have a common desire to connect with one another in a variety of meaningful ways. It can be a very lonely experience to seek love and intimacy, when it seems it's not returned in kind.

Some of the reasons could be that you:

• Pick the wrong people to date or be in relationship with
• Struggle to hold onto relationships, even when they're bad
  
• Feel depressed about being alone and feel like you always will be unless you settle
• Feel like you can help them change
• Know that they really need you
  

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Enhancing or Revitalizing Disjointed Relationships

For Individuals , Unconventional Couples, Life Partners:

We all struggle with dating, relationships and communication. Most of us were not taught how to date...how to clarify what we want...how to set your expectations and have them met.

It takes willingness, self-awareness, self-inventory commitment and determination to consciously "come correct" to your life partner or mate, when mistrust, anger, resentments and lack of communication seem be insurmountable obstacles.

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Have you reached a point in your couples' relationship where communication has broken down and constant resentment has built a wall between you and your partner, to the extent that one or both of you are constantly questioning whether you wish to stay together because either or both of you feel like:

• You're expressing anger and resentment a lot more than love and tenderness
• You're fighting more, over the same issues with no workable solution or acceptable results
• Your partner doesn't care about how you feel

• You're being accused of cheating, lying about where you go
• You're being blamed for your partner’s unhappiness
• You're acting and feeling like roommates instead of caring lovers
• You have insurmountable personality conflicts

• You're feeling frustrated with your relationship
• You're arguing more than making love
• Your partner is deliberately hurting you, verbally or with uncaring actions
  

• You're not being heard or paid attention to
• You're feeling alone even though you are in a committed relationship
• Any sense of trust has been destroyed by an affair or inappropriate behavior

Be humble, for the worst thing in the world
is of the same stuff as you;
be confident,
for the stars are of the same stuff as you . . .

    ~Nicholai Velimirovic

If you answered yes to any of these questions it is time to take actions to turn your relationship nose-dive around.You and your partner can learn and integrate new and effective skills that can restore anger and resentment into love and kindness.

Resolving relationship problems can be challenging, frustrating and emotionally painful, requiring serious effort and commitment from both partners.

However, the potential rewards can well be worth it when a couple successfully achieves improved communication, restore, intimacy, hope and trust in their relationship, and establish a more empathetic understanding about each another. 

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Non-Blaming Resolutions For Mother-Daughter Conflicts

All too often, mother and daughters find ourselves at an unresolvable impasse. Each find yourself angry and mistrustful about the other. Each belives she is right and believes that there is no place for compromise about their differences in perspective regarding the issue(s) of conflict.

Each feels deceived and unappreciated around differences about what is respectful areas of sharing versus privacy as the mother-daugther dynamic evolves.

Each finds yourselves virtual strangers without a place for mutual agreement, frustrated and angry and struggling with unmanageble blame and crticism, you've become "gifted" at pushing one another's buttons.

• Are you feeling that your daughter doesn’t listen to you anymore, makes poor, irresponsible and potentially self-destructive choices, and is secretive, not even being remotely honest with you about anything anymore?
• Are you feeling that your mother's constantly trying to "over-parent" you, and that she's just too demanding, unreasonable and overly critical ? 
• Does it feel like even a simple question is et with negative body language, answered rudely [if at all], and in ways that neither of you would dare speak to other folk?

We can help you to get to the root causes of your frustrated, conflicted and blaming feelings and response.

We offer womin-affirmative™ and practical interventions to assist you to stop the blaming patterns that keep you stuck in growing mistrust and isolating resentments and learn new languages and processes of workable compromise.

We can assist you to regain a renewed sense of mutual regard with one another again and a better quality of life as a result of our working together.



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End Self-Sabotaging, Recycling Patterns, Increase Low Self-Regard

Suffering from feelings of low self-esteem can create a whole host of serious
problems, such as an inability to forge healthy relationships with others, isolation, and a poor quality of life.

A few related behaviors can be:

• Doubting and sabotaging how you handle yourself in your personal and professional relationships
• Criticizing yourself, despite what others say, berating your abilities, just deciding to not  follow-through with an appointment,  complete a task for no apparent reason
• Having a "auto-repeat"  tape recorder of negative thoughts about yourself that you play over and over in your head

We can help you to examine the root causes of your self-defeating and self-sabotaging thinking and emotions. We offer womin-affirmative™ but practical interventions to assist you to stop  self-destructive

recycling. Clients often reported a greater sense of peace with themselves and a better quality of life as a result of our work together.

 

 

Great tranquility of heart is hers

who cares for neither praise nor blame. 

~ Thomas à Kempis



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Lesbian, Bisexual or Questioning Couples:

Let us help you to effectively deal with the challenges of being a lesbian, bisexual or "questioning" couple.

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Do You Have More

Specific Questions About Unconventional

or LBQ Relationships ?

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