September 2011

 For Any Womin Who Finds That She Just Can't Take a Compliment . . .

& 20 Good Thoughts From Those Who Can . . .

by AfraShe Asungi, LCSW, MSW, MFA ~ September 2011

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If you weren't already aware of it ~ taking a compliment often means being able to be mindfully Self- appreciative.

If you've read our group info page discussion about the benefits of wimmin's groups, "On Moving from A Self-Depreciative To A Self-Appreciative World-View Through Wimmin's Groups" then you're already aware that I affirmed that:

"Self-appreciation is essential to our having a healthy holistic, balanced and contented lifestyle. It's also another form of self-validation. When we mindfully and naturally validate ourselves, we don't fruitlessly look for appreciation and validation from other folk, who really can't give us this, nor any real or lasting sense of self-worth anyway.

While it's really unfortunate that as wimmin we're often socialized into looking outside ourselves for it; It's simply not possible for us to receive the external validation we might [unrealistically] crave from others.

Ironically, validation from others can only have real meaning when we are able to do it for ourselves first. Without an inherent, healthy sense of self-appreciation, seeking any meaningful sense of validation from others is pretty much akin to pouring wine into a sieve."

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Having had to learn to SheCreate™ a viable lifestyle that jived with and enhanced my own unique gift of introvertism very early in my own life  [as I imagine others have also had to do]; upon coming across this topic on a peer chat site, I was clear that this was a topic VERY close to my own heart.

And as such, an area of specialty that has piqued my interest from a very personal place, since it was the first time I had encountered this particular Inner Character Strength identified as a social and transpersonal "gift" rather than as a social "burden". 

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"Two wimmin are wise."    

(productivity of female mutuality)

              ~ Afrikan  Wisdom

"Some wimmin wait for something to change and nothing does change so they change themselves."

        ~ AnSistah Audre Lorde

~ Do feel free to come here to contemplate, copy and share any of the Wise Qoutes you may find here.

~ Also feel free to send us those wise quotes which you feel are similarly, Wise Qoutes to live by . . . Enjoy

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Why Daydreamers Are More Creative
Creative people daydream more, even while concentrating
         Scott Barry Kaufman, Ph.D.,
         Published on February 27, 2011

"In 1966, my mentor and colleague, Jerome L. Singer, published his seminal book, "Daydreaming: An Introduction to the Experimental Study of Inner Experience." Since then, the scientific study of daydreaming has taken off. A key theme that has emerged is the striking continuity between nightdreaming and daydreaming and the ability of creative people to harness this continuity. Neuroscience has allowed us to take this research to new, creative heights that were unimaginable when Singer published his book in '66.


When most of us fall asleep, the brain network that involves attention to the outside world (the working memory network consisting primarily of the lateral frontal and parietal cortices) deactivates and our default brain network (medial prefrontal and posterior cingulate cortices) takes over.

The discovery of the default brain network is important, as it involves various aspects of our self, such as our self-representations, dreams, imagination, current concerns, autobiographical memory and perspective-taking ability. Those with higher default network activity during rest have a tendency to daydream more frequently, which makes sense if one thinks of the default network as involving our inner stream of consciousness."

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